November is Family Violence Prevention Month—a time to reflect, learn, and take action against the many forms of violence that can affect individuals and families. For older adults, fostering healthy relationships is not just important for well-being; it is essential for ensuring dignity, safety, and a sense of fulfillment as we age.
In this blog, we’ll explore the dynamics of healthy and unhealthy relationships for older adults, recognizing the profound impact these relationships have on physical, emotional, and social well-being. We’ll also share actionable strategies to identify unhealthy patterns, offer support, and create a safer, more empowering future for older adults in our communities.
The Importance of Healthy Relationships in Aging
Healthy relationships are the foundation of well-being. They bring comfort, connection, and purpose to our lives—qualities that become even more crucial in later years. However, aging can sometimes introduce stressors or changes in family dynamics that challenge these relationships. Older adults and their loved ones can take proactive steps toward safety and wellness by understanding healthy relationships and identifying unhealthy dynamics.
How to Recognize Unhealthy Relationships
Unhealthy relationships can take many forms, including emotional, physical, and financial abuse. These behaviours may develop gradually, making it difficult for older adults to recognize them. Societal stigma, generational expectations, or cultural norms can make it even harder to recognize. Some common indicators include:
- Emotional Signs: Constant criticism or demeaning comments, feeling anxious or fearful around a particular person, or a sense of being isolated or unable to speak freely.
- Physical Signs: Unexplained injuries, bruises, or burns, poor personal hygiene or untreated medical issues, or withdrawal from social activities or neglect of self-care.
- Financial Signs: Sudden changes in financial circumstances or missing belongings, pressure to sign documents or give away money or property without full understanding.
If you or someone you know is experiencing any of these signs, it’s important to seek help and support.
Cultural Norms and Expectations:
Unhealthy relationships can look different in various cultural contexts, and understanding these dynamics is critical to offering support and helping individuals recognize abusive patterns.
It’s important to emphasize that this understanding is intended to inform and empower, not to perpetuate stereotypes or assumptions about any cultural group. We recognize that individuals within any community have diverse experiences, and we aim to foster understanding and compassion. By recognizing these cultural dynamics, we can offer more effective and sensitive support to older adults facing unhealthy relationships.
How to Support Healthy Relationships and Safe Aging
If you suspect someone is in an unhealthy relationship, offering compassionate and nonjudgmental support can make a significant difference. Here’s how you can help:
- Listen with Empathy First: Start by asking how they’re feeling and offering a listening ear. Show that their feelings are valid and that you care.
- Share Resources: Provide information about trusted resources, such as community support lines, social workers, or culturally sensitive programs that can offer guidance and assistance.
- Encourage Safety Planning: If the person is in immediate danger, help them think through how to stay safe while seeking help, whether through trusted family members or professional support.
Try these gentle, non-intrusive conversation starters:
- “I’ve noticed some changes recently, and I just want to check in—how are you feeling in your relationships?”
- “Is there anything you’ve been going through that you’d like to talk about? I’m here for you, no judgment.”
- “How can I support you right now? Do you feel like you’re getting the care and respect you deserve?”
Supporting Older Adults in Our Community
At Carya, we are dedicated to supporting older adults in navigating the complexities of aging, empowering them to live their best lives in safe, healthy environments. By promoting awareness, supporting open conversations, and providing resources, we can create safer environments for everyone—particularly for vulnerable older adults.
If you or someone you know is in need of support, explore the programs and resources below to find the support you need:
Additional Resources
- Alberta 24/7 Community and Social Services Helpline: Call 211 to access information on resources such as food assistance, housing support, mental health services, and local programs.
- Family Violence Information Line: 1-780-310-1818 (toll-free, 24/7, multilingual service available).
- Emergency: Call 911 if you need immediate assistance.
- Non-emergency line for the Calgary Police Service: 403-266-1234